I Want A Girl
You want a girl, but it never works
out. You're a nice guy, you do the things women want, but no one takes
you seriously as a romantic possibility.
"You're such a great guy,"
they say. They tell you stories of being stood up, of bad behavior,
of the bad boys in their life. "You would never treat a woman like
that," they say. You accept the compliment and smile. But deep
inside, your stomach churns because you know she's going to keep chasing
the bad boy and you'll only hear from her when she needs a shoulder
to cry on.
You think you need to get a leather
coat, maybe a motorcycle. Grow your hair long, maybe stop shaving for
a couple of days. Show up late for appointments. Sneer a lot.
But you don't have to be a jerk.
It's not about being a "bad boy."
Internationally bestselling author
Neil Strauss was a polite, intellectual writer and music critic. He wasn't
physically imposing. He was soft-spoken and into densely literate books
and underground music. But he became the world's greatest pickup artist
and learned the skills to get any woman he wants. His transformation
was so amazing, he launched Stylelife
to help others. As a result of Stylelife's instruction, thousands of
men have learned that the secret to getting the girl you want isn't
about being an asshole. It's about having value and not being a push
So if you think to yourself, "I
want a girl but I'm too nice," follow these proven pickup artist techniques:
1. Disqualify women you encounter.
This powerful technique shows the world that you won't hang out with
just anyone. You only spend time with people when you choose
to include them in your active life. So when you're chatting with a
woman at a bar, say to her, "I'm not sure you're adventurous enough
for me. I'm into things like skydiving but you seem like the 'stay at
home type.' I don't think we're going to work out."
The woman will either counter your
statement, usually with a fake-exasperated "I am adventurous!"
as she playfully punches you in the arm. Or, she will agree with your
But either way, you have demonstrated
specific standards. You have proven that you're not beholden to the
whims of other people who allow you in their orbit. Instead, you
make the choice about the girl you want.
2. Use negs to keep people
off guard. The stereotypical nice guy does nothing but compliment a
woman. He applauds her presentation at work, he compliments her shoes,
he makes excuses for anything she does. A neg is a sort of verbal jab
that keeps people on their toes and shows that you're not a brown-noser.
If you're in a group and the lady you're interested in talks a lot,
look at the other folks and say, "Does she have a mute button?"
Or, you can reference a garment or a fashion choice. Say, "That's
a great nail color, are those fake?"
It is important to remember that
negs should not be overtly rude. And you should deliver them with smile,
a sort of a wink and a nod. An effectively delivered neg will never
blatantly offend a person. Instead, it will set the stage that you're
not a suck-up who is going to fawn all over any woman in your vicinity.
3. Be unavailable. The usual
nice guyitis sufferer drops whatever he's doing to rush to a woman's
side. But successful pickup artists are too busy to be at her beck and
call. They lead full lives crammed with adventure, challenges, social
activities, career goals, and other women. Stylelife
provides concrete strategies for building the life you dream about.
Which means you're not going to be able to answer the phone at 2am when
the so-called bad boy is rude to her. You can't go rushing over there
to console her because you've got your own girl in your pad. If you want a girl, then the best way to succeed is to have something better to do than wait around for her.
This doesn't mean you should not
help people when they genuinely need it. But as you improve your social
life, you will have less time to waste on false alarms. And that aspect
of being unavailable will bolster your persona as someone who is not
a push-over, someone who has lots of exciting things to do.
You think, "I want a girl." But with hard work and these high-tech strategies of socializing, your thinking will change. In no time at all, you'll be thinking, "I can get any girl I want."
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